With Christmas behind us and New Years just around the corner, everyone is going to be figuring out what they are going to do for their New Year’s resolution.  Goals will be set.  Exercise equipment will be purchased.  Books will be read.  The plans will be made, the goals will be set, and a few months into the new year failure will creep in.  So how do you make a new years resolution that you’ll actually keep?

Why do we fail?  Are new years resolutions cursed?  Is there any way to be successful?  Some would say no, but I think there is.  I think the problem is with the type of resolution and not with the ideas of resolutions itself.  A few years back I had the opportunity to listen to Jeff Vanderstelt of Soma Communities in Washington share his thoughts on churches having values.  I think his ideas help answer this issue perfectly.

He stated that the problem with values is that they fall short.  Values can be narrow minded and ultimately don’t help us accomplish what we want.  Values are generally based just upon actions.  At the heart of values is the idea that we need to DO something. But we need to call people to BE something.  When we help people find a new identity, their actions will automatically follow.

In this same mindset, I think we need to give up goals and action plans and exchange them for new identities (these identities should always be subservient to our identity in Jesus). Let me give you an example.  Here is a typical New Years resolution:

I will run a 5k.

It seems simple enough.  There are even apps that will help you accomplish this goal.  But many of us will fail and those that accomplish it will only have to set another goal.  But what if we changed this from an action to an identity?

I will become a runner.

The difference in my mind is world’s apart.  With the first, you might run a 5k, but then what do you do?  With the second, you will run many 5k’s.  You’ll change your diet.  You’ll find fellow runners. You’ll buy they right equipment.  You will change your lifestyle.  Why?  Because you are a runner and that is what runners do.

When you simply set a goal, you’re done when you accomplish it.  When you decide to become something (change your identity), you change everything about you for the rest of your life.

This past June, Shannon gave birth to our second boy…Mason Lee David Qualls.  While Mars Hill Church doesn’t believe in Infant Baptism, we do have baby dedications.  This Sunday (Christmas), our church will be having baby dedications.  If you aren’t familiar with baby dedications, this is where the parents present the child to the church, the church and the parents promise to raise the child to know about Jesus, and they pray for the child and family.

There isn’t anything magical about a baby dedication. It doesn’t make the child a Christian (only Jesus can do that).  It’s actually more for the parents and the church.  This isn’t to try to secure the child a place in heaven, but it’s to set in the heart of the parents and church how the child should be raised. If it doesn’t save the child, why should you do a  baby dedication?

Well here are the three reasons, Shannon and I are doing it.

1. It’s Biblical

You see in the Old Testament that God gave Abraham a sign to show that he and his family were dedicated to the Lord (circumcision).  As we entered the new covenant, we see that this particular symbol was done away with as the sign. Baptism replaced it as the sign of someone that has believed in Jesus for their salvation.  While some would now say that we should now baptize infants because of this, I don’t see enough in scripture to support baptizing children (another topic for another time).  I see baptism consistently happening when someone comes to a personal faith in Jesus.

What I do see constantly in scripture though is parents being dedicated to raising their children to know Jesus.

• Deuteronomy 6
• Proverbs 22:6
• Luke 2:22-24

2. It’s Counter-Cultural

Where I live in Albuquerque, NM, it seems like you generally have three options when it comes to the subject of dedicating your child –   Abandonment, Religion, or Spirituality.  The majority of kids in Albuquerque will grow up without a dad in their house.  They will never know what it means to have the daily influence of a man in their lives.  They will grow up having daddy issues that only Jesus can save them from.  By the grace of God, my boys will not have to experience that.

To say that Albuquerque is steeped in Catholic tradition would be an understatement.  While I believe there are a lot of Catholics that love Jesus and I’ll be hanging out in heaven with, there are a lot of Catholics in this area that feel they have get in to heaven free ticket.  They will site that they were baptized as an infant and took their first holy communion at such and such an age.  There faith is based in a ceremony and not in Jesus.

If you’re not abandoned or religious in ABQ, then you’re left to be raised in some vague spiritual system.  Children are raised with a mix of various religious, spiritual, and demonic rituals.  This leaves the child finding their righteousness in anything and everything…other than Jesus.

I want Mason’s dedication to be a counter-cultural witness to the saving grace of Jesus alone.  We are dedicated to Jesus alone, and we dedicate Mason to Jesus alone.  By the grace of God, we are raising him to trust in Jesus and not religion or spirituality.

3. It’s Familial

Shannon and I want to build a legacy.  We want the name Qualls to decrease and the name of Jesus to always increase. When I hear the name Graham, Wesley, Spurgeon, and Edwards, I think of Jesus.  I want the name of Qualls to be synonymous with Jesus.  The sad thing is that it only takes one generation for this to stop.  Therefore, it is my hope that some day I will get to be at the baby dedications of my grandchildren and great-grandchildren.  But it must start with me.  So this Sunday I am pumped that we get to dedicate Mason Lee David Qualls to Jesus. Come join us if you are in town.

I was introduced to Purpose Driven Church, Rick Warren, and church planting about ten years ago while on a mission trip in Brazil.  I spent a summer working with some different missionaries in Rid de Janeiro doing whatever was needed.  One of the guys I worked with was in charge of the Purpose Driven Church planting movement in Brazil.  During that summer, God planted in my heart a love for church planting and making the gospel accessible to those that don’t know Jesus.

I’ve always thought that Rick Warren has been misunderstood and misinterpreted.  It is awesome seeing two men that have had an influence in my life together in the same room.  It’s awesome seeing Rick Warren’s heart and deep doctrinal basis for what he does.  I would highly recommend carving out 98 minutes and see watch two men who love Jesus and have been used greatly by Jesus.

I was having a brief conversation with Shannon this morning about an area in my life that I’m just not very happy about.  I don’t find joy in it.  It just really bums me out.  If I had a way out of it, I would take it in a hear beat, but there doesn’t seem to be any hope in sight.

This made me wonder though if I have a problem with being content with what God has given me at this time.  One of the areas that I struggle with in my life is being content.  I always notice the flaws.  I always want the bigger, better, newer, brighter, faster, cooler, etc.  The default of my heart is to be discontent with whatever I have.

So I’ve been seeking the Holy Spirit to work in my heart and help me be content with what God has given me.  But this one situation is really a crappy situation.  It doesn’t seem like God is going to rescue me from this situation any time soon.  So I need to be content, but do I need to be happy about it too?

I have joy that God is using this situation to purify me.
I have joy that God is giving me the strength to get through it.
I have joy that God is loves me enough to pursue me in this.
I have joy that God is providing.
I have joy that God has given me friends suffer with me.
I have joy that God is right here with me and will not forsake me.

I’m content to the extent that I’m not looking for other options.  I’m letting God work in His own timing.  But do I need to be happy about the situation itself inorder to be content? I don’t have an answer for that question at the moment.  So I’ll just keep seeking God and His word in the time being.

The other night Shannon and I had a great time taking pictures for our date night.  We had some really great pictures come out of it that I thought I would share. Hope you enjoy.

Just got done reading the following article.  If you’re single or don’t have kids or both, read it and then I have a few thoughts for you.

Most people without kids don’t realize the stress and time that is envolved with raising children.  I don’t know how many times I’ve talked to a single person and wanted to smack them when they say, “I’m so busy!  I just don’t have time to __________.”  Normally their excuse is that they are working a part-time job and taking the bare minimum of credit hours at school.  Then for some reason they feel they have the right to look down on their married friends who only have a job and a kid to raise.

The reality that this article presents is that raising children (especially a stay at home mom) is probably one of the hardest “jobs” out there.  It is a strenuous joy that you can never truly understand until you get to undertake it yourself.

So here is my challenge.  Instead of living in your bubble, step back and evaluate how you could serve and sacrifice for your friends who have kids.  When the next great movie comes out, watch your friends kids so they can see it instead of seeing it yourself (it’s called sacrifice).  Show up randomly and do some household work (cleaning, dishes, dusting, laundry, etc.).  Take their kids out and let them have a quiet night at home.  Hang out with mom and give her some adult conversation during the day.

I can tell you from experience, these are some of the greatest blessing you can give to parents.

Asa was in a wedding a few weeks ago. The dude was a stud. We got him a haircut and a new outfit. Yes I put a chain on him.

Had a great time in the park tonight with Asa. The boy is fearless. He was climbing thing the 4-year-olds were scared of. We better buy some more health insurance.

This perspective of a missional church starkly contrasts the typical church today that sees itself as a church that has missions.  In these churches, missions are always done by a specially called person who is a missionary.  Missions is always done in a foreign country.  Missions is a program or ministry that is run by a committee in the church.  The church goes on mission trips, has a missions fund, and has a missions bulletin board in the foyer with a map of the world with colored pushpins in it.  Missions is completely separate from the church and exist out of the church.  The church has missions.

Whereas a missional church understands the opposite—the mission of God has a church.  This perspective changes everything.  This means that the mission field is where the church is.  We are all missionaries.  There is no missions program.  Instead, every program and ministry is a missional program.  The church doesn’t run missions—the mission runs the church.  The church doesn’t have a mission.  The mission has a church.  This is what it means to be a missional church.  Being missional isn’t the next catchy fad, but instead it is being caught up in the mission of God.