Posted by GregQualls | Posted in Jesus, Life, Tip and Tricks | Posted on 26-12-2011
With Christmas behind us and New Years just around the corner, everyone is going to be figuring out what they are going to do for their New Year’s resolution. Goals will be set. Exercise equipment will be purchased. Books will be read. The plans will be made, the goals will be set, and a few months into the new year failure will creep in. So how do you make a new years resolution that you’ll actually keep?
Why do we fail? Are new years resolutions cursed? Is there any way to be successful? Some would say no, but I think there is. I think the problem is with the type of resolution and not with the ideas of resolutions itself. A few years back I had the opportunity to listen to Jeff Vanderstelt of Soma Communities in Washington share his thoughts on churches having values. I think his ideas help answer this issue perfectly.
He stated that the problem with values is that they fall short. Values can be narrow minded and ultimately don’t help us accomplish what we want. Values are generally based just upon actions. At the heart of values is the idea that we need to DO something. But we need to call people to BE something. When we help people find a new identity, their actions will automatically follow.
In this same mindset, I think we need to give up goals and action plans and exchange them for new identities (these identities should always be subservient to our identity in Jesus). Let me give you an example. Here is a typical New Years resolution:
I will run a 5k.
It seems simple enough. There are even apps that will help you accomplish this goal. But many of us will fail and those that accomplish it will only have to set another goal. But what if we changed this from an action to an identity?
I will become a runner.
The difference in my mind is world’s apart. With the first, you might run a 5k, but then what do you do? With the second, you will run many 5k’s. You’ll change your diet. You’ll find fellow runners. You’ll buy they right equipment. You will change your lifestyle. Why? Because you are a runner and that is what runners do.
When you simply set a goal, you’re done when you accomplish it. When you decide to become something (change your identity), you change everything about you for the rest of your life.